Dear virji
I am Sanjam Kaur ,and I do exist .On my little write-up I expressed my humble opinion.We all are sikhs and no matter how different we all look at a certain issue ,we all still Guru Nanak,s sikhs (students for spiritual knowledge).On Sikhnet ,Ms. Simarjeet Kaur had following to say about the article ,and i am posting my reply here ,which i think may explain the point I am and was trying to make.
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa
Waheguru Ji KIi Fateh
Deleted full statement by a Sikhnet discussant. Narayanjot Kaur
Remarks by Simarjeet Kaur
"Interesting read. Wao, you did exactly what Holy SGGSji proscribes in Aasa di Waar; branding the women as bad. If what you wrote about Charitropakhyan is true then how is it different from Samritis and upnishads that sing oodles and oodles of trash about the viels of feminine gender? What kind of spiritualism is it that believes in the branding of a whole gender as eveil even if it is few bad apples there? Yeh, the Triya Chritra you have mentioned is already vilified in the Samritis, purans and upnishads. That sing praises of the rapist: Indera, the king of Demi Gods. Brahma who had sexual desires for his daughter and the brother sister Yam and yami troubled by incest and least to say of Shiva who lost his mind to Kama and then was so outraged that he could not contain his anger. Wao, if the Gods and demi Gods were to behave like this forget about the humans. So it was always the woman’s fault not these male figures" Read more at this link
http://www.sikhnet.com/news/charitropakhyan-and-i
To this following is my reply
Dear Ms Simarjeet Kaur Ji
The statement you mentioned is different from the Manusmriti in the basic fact that in manusmriti it is not mentioned "a woman of bad character". Manusmriti degrades all women just as they are some how low in birth because they are women.In Chritropakhyan women who are talked about are of low moral standards.
Charitropakhyan does not contain only stories pertaining to women, but there are many stories of men, who were saints, kings, and courtiers. I have not ever implied that women are evil .Not only I ,a woman, but no sikh man thinks that women are evil,because we are Sikhs .our guru taught usto love not to hate,how can anyone hate a woman. No man thinks women are evil just as no woman thinks that men are evil.S o come on guys do not bring that manusmriti stuff in .I did not mean that woman is evil but what I am saying in my little write up is that donot you guys all agree that women can be as evil as described in Chritropakhyan ,s all the chritras?It is the evil ways a woman can behave just as a man can be very evil .This is not saying that women are evil.
If you read chritropakhyan from beginning to end ,and not some portions of it you will not be offended .When you read parts of it ,not only you will miss the purpose intended but you may understand it the wrong way ,just as you are implying that I am trying to insult all women .If you read once again my little write up you will see that all I am trying to say is that in all societies modern and old ,women have their own share of blame to take for the ills of the society.But then again this is what I am saying ,Our Great Guru Gobind Singh ji does not blame any one..Charitropakhyan is not an insult to women ,it just is not The only way for you to find this out is to read it in totality with a calm mind .But even if your mind is not calm and you start to read chritropakhyan and you feel ,”what is this .all these ashleel words and talk about lust “ do not stop reading it .Just read the chritra till the end .believe me you will not feel offended Then read another one and then the rest ,even if your mind is getting agitated with anger just read it .We owe it to ourselves.I am sure that in the end you will understand that our supreme patshah Shri Guru Gobind Singh Ji is trying to help us with one of the basic emotioms pervading our bodies --the kaam. We are Sikhs. We are students of truth A student who treads the path of Truth must, also equip himself with -
Viveka
Believe me if you read chritropakhyan you will understand that Mahakavi Guru Gobind Singh Ji is trying to increase his sikh,s viveka and that means women and men both .Chritropakhyan is just a different but very important kind of knowledge our Guruji is trying to convey. Like I said before, only if you read Chritropakhyan you will see that all the scenerios described in there Do and Can Happen, maybe not in our lives but we certainly have read them in different places .We as women, can not say that no woman can ever act in evil and clever ways described in the Chritripakhyan. Now please try to understand, -- it is the EVIL WAYS a woman can act it DOES NOT MEAN that the woman is evil.If a woman act seductively ,like it is described in many chritras she is acting in evil ways .It is got nothing to do with manu or any other simriti .We are sikhs and our Shri GURU Nanak Dev Ji has forgiven even prostitutes and we sikhs do not hate anyone ,even those prostitutes.They are as our Guru Ji teaches us ,,are just misguided and that is why act in evil ways .But we are not dumb The humility of a sikh sharpens his intellect ,and gives him another tool on the spiritual climb called viveka.What our Guru Ji has done in Chritropakhyan, is, increased his sikhs viveka,about a topic which, if not understood well, can cause him ,Guru,s Khalsa to fall in a kaamic pit .
Have you read or listened to Chandi Di Vaar another of our Guru Ji,s great gift to us. If you read Chandi Di Vaar Sahib ,you may ask “why does Guru Ji wants me to know about the war between devas and rakshsas .But if you listen to it completely and understand it (you can read the translation while listening ) you are going to feel calm and fearless in the end .It is as if you were sitting on the shore waiting for the waves to calm down ,but after listening to Chandi Dee Vaar Sahib , you just say, “ Waheguruji ka khalsa , Waheguru ji kiFfateh and you jump and are ready to surf those waves .You will stop coasting in fear and be a fearless surfer in life,s ocean.
In the same way, reading chritropakhyan in totality will help you swim through this ocean of kaamic fire .Shri Dashmesh Pita Ji loves us all equally .You ,me and everyone else sikh ,non sikh good ,bad . Guru Ji loves everyone ,all his sikhs whom he is trying to protect from a freefall into the kaamic hell and all those women who are described of shady characters in different chritras of the chritropakhyan, Guru Ji does not hate them .They are exibiting evil qualities in the stories and do we all women not know that women are capable of stooping that low .Just as can a man say that a man can not commit heinious crimes like rape etc. Shri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, tells us to achieve the state of vairagya when we will fully understand the one and the only purpose of this human birth, which is to get rid of the cycle of life and death .Once again I would humbly say that reading chritropakhyan with a calm and kaam- free mind will bring some vairaga to the reader for one will understand the futility of all this wonderful web built by kaam.You may ask why Chritropakhyan, why not reading only Shri Guru Granth Sahib Ji is enough to bring vairagya Iit is true .You do not even read, you just be a humble sikh.but if someone says that chritropakhyan is just useless sensual tales then my answer is, No they are not . They are one more of the so many other kind ways our Guru Ji is trying to pull us out of this kaamic mud of this kalyug.
Just as the true viveka leads to an enduring vairagya ,the knowledge gained from Chritropakhyan can make a sikh man or a woman understand about the futility of so many of this life,s mayayic(illusionary) entanglements, which either directly or indirectly spring up from kaam . Many a times you all may notice that knowledge is enveloped by ignorance and that is the reason we may be fooled.I think Chritropakhyan peels out some of that ignorance.
Once again no one can ever can say that women are evil just as no one can ever say that men are evil. we are all good, as one light pervades all .
Thanks
Sat Sri Akal
Sanjam Kaur