This has been a big problem in UK.But the parents of the gilrs can do much to help themselves.Instead of picking upon the children and driving them away, love them and make them feel secure within the family and home.There is a lot that is messed up with parents, and such parents mess up their own daughters and sons and drive them away.Teach them to respect, and respect them and help them undertsand to respect their own bodies.
This was a fear we had and have.But we have tried to make the child more important than us, parents.Our daughter comes home every week from UNI.. in the middle as well as the weekends.We make her feel secure and loved and wanted and missed at home when she is at Uni.We encouraged her to join the Sikh society at the UNI;but she already explored that before I even broached the subject with her.
WE respond whenever she rings and needs anything.She knbows we are THERE for HER.She feels important and wanted.The other day, when we dropped her, mum says to her, well, You will have to cook this week as you have lot of work to finish you are not comming home midweek...., ..at once she said,...NO, you are going to bring the food mid week, mum,dad wont let me starve!!!He will be here.hehehee ...he will be here on wednesday. ..
Let the child know you care.You are THERE.It is parents who find excuses to work and party and go to fuctions and do not put their children first, find the child drifts away.This where then problems begin as they then find comfort in the company of others.
Without us asking her, she has stated that she is thinking of taking amrit.
Admittedly, times ahead hold no promise, but with with the will of Guru Ji and his strength, keep the child close and make them waanted, half the problems will not arise.Yes, our child is only at the most 1 hours drive away ...and we can respond fast ...and distances can make things hard, but try to love that child with warmth and sensitivity and sincerity and practical and down to earth.. ,...they will make you parents proud.
The rest is the will of Guru Ji in whom one needs to have great but simple faith.
