Controversial Crime Against Women In Punjab Goes On Unabated

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Crime against women in Punjab goes on unabated


Punjab Newsline Network
Wednesday, 25 October 2006


CHANDIGARH: Twenty one women are murdered and four are attempted to murder every month in Punjab. About 28 women are raped and two face attempt to rape every month. At an average 27 women are kidnapped every month and about 10 women commit suicide. About 22 cases of molestation of women are registered every month.


This is a glimpse of law and order situation in Punjab while the women in state continue to live under terror.


During last five years, at an average 2300 cases of crime against women were registered. Lowest crime rate was registered in 2005 when 2282 cases were registered. During 2006 till month of August only 1756 cases of crime against women have been registered.


If figures tell the tale of women's plight, it is shocking to know that during last five years
(2002-2006 till August) have seen an increase in rape cases with 1591 women raped and 143 faced an attempt to rape.



About 200 women have been murdered in the state in first eight months of current year. The figures were 271 murders of women in 2002, 239 in 2003, 240 in 2004, 256 in 2005 and 191 in 2006.


The dowry deaths shows the fate of women in Punjabi society. According to figures 165 women were killed for dowry in 2002, 104 in 2003, 105 in 2004, 96 in 2005 and 85 in first eight months of 2006.


The dowry harassment cases in Punjab have been going unabated. Till August this year, 534 dowry cases have been registered. In five years 3946 dowry harassment cases were registered which means 70 cases every month.

1231 of molestation of women were registered in Punjab in five years of Congress rule. 475 cases of eve teasing (nine every month) have been registered.





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[dalsingh]

Any suggestions on how we can this stuff in a realistic way? Please don't say that we should all take Amrit and everything will be ok. I mean how can we address this issue given the circumstances on the ground?

I think the sisters on the forum should make comments if they can.

 

[gurkipreet kaur]

Any suggestions on how we can this stuff in a realistic way? Please don't say that we should all take Amrit and everything will be ok. I mean how can we address this issue given the circumstances on the ground?

I think the sisters on the forum should make comments if they can.

lol@take amrit! R U SERIOUS.i guess we losing our faith in being HUMAN nd having a teacher AKAL as our Guide
anyhow
well there many things that are contributin to this situation. it just doesn't happen in a day or week we all know that right!
i do not have time to write a lot...there is a lot to discuss here though.
without any proper education in these issues, i can only give my opinion.

1st reason i see is the type of music there is these days that we listen to!(im not gonna go into detail but we all should knwo the ffects of music or the words we listen/read each day) hugeeeeeee!!!!! someone else can elborte n this!

2nd reason...not enough respect for womn in some households. from a young age in some houses female is not gve respect she decrvs. she is "jannani" teh one who gives birth to the genrationz. the loss of love and repect for her needs to be instild in each home in each heart. double standards need to burnd.
it is not just one persons respobility but the whole communitys reposbilityy(mom, dad, brotehr, uncle, aunt, grandfathers/mums.....list goes on)

3rd this kind of over laps with the abve two..moral of peole these days!


lack of rsposibilty and knowlegde on evryones part.(not knowing the purpose inlife and runnin after the illusion)
our communty coloses eyes when someone else daughter is mistreated...we do not see each otehr as our brother and sister. (pure selfishness on our part):}--}:

these things r not smething new...they been happenin...
read hist, philosphy etc and we will know how to deal with it


Akal Sahai!

 

[kaur]

Hello,

I see three components to the very serious, disturbing, and very sad reality for punjabi women- economic, civil rights, and sexual-reproductive.

Each component relates to the others, and no part can flourish without the other. But I am a glass half-full person, so I believe their is hope for change.

1. Currently, India has a booming middle class set at 300 million- that is alot of buying power of a very unique kind. The middle sector demands good and services that are ambitious enough to provide maximal benefit to them, but scaled down to meet their budgets. (ie historically, the middle class is the birth place of democracy) With this robustness, niches can be carved out... perhaps one will be for woman- hear her roar!

2. Civil rights, womens suffrage is a new concept even in the West (~100yrs), and has only been put to real practice for about 50yrs. So India is not lagging behind- 50 yrs post-colonialism, growing economic opportunity will translate into improved human rights conditions for the country's many groups.

3. Very intimately related to the suffrage movement and women's rights in general is control of her own body. This means access to contraception, birth control, abortion. Sexual/reproductive rights, more specifically pornography, was (surprisingly) very much linked in the West to women winning the right to vote. Currently, Indians do not fundamentally believe in free speech- whether it is personal, political, or sexual. There are as yet not the culture of openess- no Dr.Ruth, masturbation jokes, or more importantly an understanding that men's and women's sexuality is equal.

Again, I am hopeful that one day these rights will come to pass in India. That there will exist an Indian Playboy, and Indian CEO, and a genuine respect for a woman's legal, political, and human right to express herself as she chooses. Again, I pin my hopes on other women right movements- and hope these models prove strong enough to remove my sisters from bitter chains.

Kaur

 

[dalsingh]

I recall watching AlphaPanjabi channel recently and one Panjabi girl (speaking about the female foetus fanticide issue), said that she believed that when women in the Panjab themselves value their daughters/daughter-in-laws as much as boys, the men will soon follow.

One big factor contributing to the problem to my mind is the greed for having sons. Historically it can be understood in terms of security for the parent(s) where daughters get married and move away. In an environment where there are no social welfare systems, parents rely on sons to support them in old age in many ways, although truth be told, from my personal experience, women often play a big but unrecognised role in nursing for elderly parents so the picture is more complex than this.

What is strange about this situation is that being a "kurimaar" was a serious issue during the early days of the Khalsa which resulted in instant excommunication with no contact with the persons who committed the crime. So how we have regressed so far from ideals that we as a society once held is a big question in itself. Some will cite Kalyug as the cause whilst others will point at the general decline in religious beliefs in society.

With the dowry problem, greedy in-laws play a big part, dowry is something that should have ended a long time ago but sadly some sections of our society seem to consider not having expensive and ostentatious celebrations at their daughter's wedding some sort of personal insult to the "honour" of their family. This needs to stop. Mother-in-laws are also commonly cited as problems when some see the growing bond between their sons and their spouse as threatening and try and jeopardise this causing unnecessary friction.

I don't agree with all of what Kaur has posted. One mistake I think females with foreign origins make in the west is to equate equality with the womens liberation movement started in the west. This is problematic in that often it seems to have gone down to women having the rights to do all of what men do, including the really dumb stuff, hence the "laddette" culture that many westernised girls now aspire to. This is sad, if women want equality, don't follow models of male behaviour but develop your own otherwise it makes no sense and seems like women want to basically be men, which smacks of an inferiority complex. Try and aim higher...lol! Don't let white society dictate your mode of progression, by all means learn from it, but don't blindly replicate it, it can be done better. Whilst the East is generally accused of suppressing women, the west can also be held accountable for promoting the depiction of women as purely sexual objects, where looks, style and careers account for all. This is very handy for western men both sexually and in terms of capitalism which largely props up their society.

Women have a great power in their roles of mothers on how their children think and develop. Infact they can change society in this manner by collectively changing the mindset of a generation, hopefully for the better.

What do you think?

 

[GURVINDER]

Bani Kehadi Hai Ki " So Kyo Mandaa Akhiye Jit Janme Rajaan" So Hanu Samajna Chahida Hai Ki Ek Aurat Hi Hai Jo Duniya Dikhandi Hai Bina Maa De Duniya Cha Koi Avtaar,auliya,pegamabar,peer,guru Nhi Hoye Sanu Insaniyat Nhi Bhulani Chahidi

 

[GURVINDER]

Who Is Saying U To Take Amrit? Amrit Is Not Taken Forcibly ! Why Are U Using So Haarsh Words In Thise Forum

 

[dalsingh]

Who Is Saying U To Take Amrit? Amrit Is Not Taken Forcibly ! Why Are U Using So Haarsh Words In Thise Forum
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I'm sorry if the words seemed harsh, I didn't mean it like that and put it down to poor expression on my part.

I think Amrit is wonderful and pray I will be blessed with it myself oneday.

It is just some people try and say you are not Sikh unless you take Amrit, and this hurts a bit although I do have some understanding of what they are saying.

 

[gurkipreet kaur]

i agree with you on that dal singh on all u have said!

i dont know why some of us try to shy away from what Gurbani says though! instead of practicinin, we try to look for "better" soultions...that are already there.
anyhow on the part of being a womn and equality...defilt it is up to us! evrything starts from home.

 

[kds1980]

I recall watching AlphaPanjabi channel recently and one Panjabi girl (speaking about the female foetus fanticide issue), said that she believed that when women in the Panjab themselves value their daughters/daughter-in-laws as much as boys, the men will soon follow.

One big factor contributing to the problem to my mind is the greed for having sons. Historically it can be understood in terms of security for the parent(s) where daughters get married and move away. In an environment where there are no social welfare systems, parents rely on sons to support them in old age in many ways, although truth be told, from my personal experience, women often play a big but unrecognised role in nursing for elderly parents so the picture is more complex than this.

What is strange about this situation is that being a "kurimaar" was a serious issue during the early days of the Khalsa which resulted in instant excommunication with no contact with the persons who committed the crime. So how we have regressed so far from ideals that we as a society once held is a big question in itself. Some will cite Kalyug as the cause whilst others will point at the general decline in religious beliefs in society.

With the dowry problem, greedy in-laws play a big part, dowry is something that should have ended a long time ago but sadly some sections of our society seem to consider not having expensive and ostentatious celebrations at their daughter's wedding some sort of personal insult to the "honour" of their family. This needs to stop. Mother-in-laws are also commonly cited as problems when some see the growing bond between their sons and their spouse as threatening and try and jeopardise this causing unnecessary friction.

I don't agree with all of what Kaur has posted. One mistake I think females with foreign origins make in the west is to equate equality with the womens liberation movement started in the west. This is problematic in that often it seems to have gone down to women having the rights to do all of what men do, including the really dumb stuff, hence the "laddette" culture that many westernised girls now aspire to. This is sad, if women want equality, don't follow models of male behaviour but develop your own otherwise it makes no sense and seems like women want to basically be men, which smacks of an inferiority complex. Try and aim higher...lol! Don't let white society dictate your mode of progression, by all means learn from it, but don't blindly replicate it, it can be done better. Whilst the East is generally accused of suppressing women, the west can also be held accountable for promoting the depiction of women as purely sexual objects, where looks, style and careers account for all. This is very handy for western men both sexually and in terms of capitalism which largely props up their society.

Women have a great power in their roles of mothers on how their children think and develop. Infact they can change society in this manner by collectively changing the mindset of a generation, hopefully for the better.

What do you think?

i totaly agree with you dal singh ji.in western model of women liberation
women don't want to be women.they want to become man as result in many
countries like germany ,russia birth rate is now negative and if this trend is not reveresed these countries will be wiped out of the map in 100-200 years.

 

[Akashdeep Singh]

Womenhood is a great virtue. I sometimes get shocked to see the attitude of our women when they themselves do not take pride in their being a woman and feel pride in immitating males. May be this is the result of socio-economic structure which has previaled in India from a long period of time. Whatever be the reason, women should feel proud of their being a woman as she will be the mother of next generation, she will be the first teacher of children, she will be the representative of the only selfless love that exists in this world and many other wonderful relationships.

Personally, I believe that there is a need to bring a change in the psychology of our daugthers, sisters, mothers, etc. Most of the times they are influenced by the useless psychologies shown on TV and Western media (do not consider me the criticiser of everthing western, I appreciate various things that they have better than us). I have learned from my interaction that mostly our women think that immitating western culture is what is called modernism. I do not agree with this, I think modernism comes from the education of the mind and not by the change of appearance.

I have also had hard time understanding why women do not respect themselves and keep presenting themselves as a material of consumption. Why do majority of young girls dream about "beauty peagants" etc? What is the benefit of that? Why do women on TV and movies present themselves as a material of consumption? I am shocked by the way girls act on the TV and pop songs (the so called "ETC punjabi" channel was full of it).

The more I think, the more I find that the males are at fault. We had the economy and other powers of household in our hands and we have failed our women in imparting them correct knowledge, liberty and honor. What society have we created for women back in Punjab? One may try to excuse the disrespect and bad behaviour of males who do not have sisters towards females at street, at work, at school etc. by saying that "They do not know what a sister is" but I am shocked by males who have multiple sisters at home and once they step outside their house these guys look every girl on the street with a bad eye and pass comments on them. In the midsized towns, the situation back in India is so bad that families are worried even about sending their daugthers to the tuitions alone fearing the guys disturbing their daughters by repeated following her. What good is the culture where the girls cannot even go to study without tension of being teased? Shame on us !! We have failed miserably to provide the status to our women that our Gurus wanted. This is high time some action be taken to restore the conditions where our women can work, go out, study and do other things individually and without fear of other men, only then they will progress truly.

Also, I am of very strong point of view that the allround education of a daughter is very-very important as when she will grow adult and get married, she will be the first teacher of our next generation of Sikhs. If she has had the right education, it will pass on to the next generation very naturally. This allround education is not just about studies related to making an excellent career, but also of politics, of religions, of her importance, of her responsibilities of being a woman, of the potential dangers to the mind posed by present world which is full of materialism, carnal lust, selfishness, brainwashing etc. May waheguru give us this understanding and ability to understand the importance of allround education for our girls and and the ability to rear daughters who will be the next "Mai Bhagos" and show the correct path to the next generation of Sikhs.

Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji ke Fateh

-Akashdeep Singh

 

[Akashdeep Singh]

Here is another example of brain dead idiots standing outside Khalsa College for Women. These scenes are pretty common these days and poor innocent girls cannot even come out of college without fear and walk home freely. Will any policemen be a true Khalsa and set an example so that nobody dares to tease any girl on the street or anywhere else?
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Eve teasers nuisance for girl students

Shivani Bhakoo
Tribune News Service​

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Boys stand in front of the main gate of the Khalsa College for Women, Ludhiana, on Thursday. — Photo by Sayeed Ahmed​

Ludhiana January 18, 2007
The rush of boys outside the Khalsa College for Women(KWC), Civil Lines, has become a daily nuisance these days. The students of KCW as well as passers-by find it difficult to move on the main road connecting Ghumar Mandi and Fountain Chowk because of these eve-teasers, who park their vehicles in a haphazard manner. The rush is at its peak when a majority of girl students come out of the college around 1:30 pm.
The students and faculty of the college are a harassed lot due to unregulated traffic at the time of closure of the college. At times, it takes about half an hour in the car to move a few yards. Though time and again the problem has been brought to the notice of the traffic police but to no avail. Ugly incidences of eve-teasing have also been taking place in the past.
Traffic has always been a problem outside majority of the girls' colleges in the city, particularly outside the Khalsa College for Women, the Government College for Women, Guru Nanak Girls College and the Guru Nanak Khalsa College for Women.
The girls hold the 'geri' route of boys responsible for this nuisance. They said boys harassed them by making undignified comments on them. "They park the vehicles in a manner that we have to request them to remove them. They do it deliberately so that we talk to them. We try to avoid them as it is a routine affair now", said a student of BA II of KCW.
These days the boys, specially the students of the Gujranwala Guru Nanak Khalsa College for Boys (which is a few yards away from KCW) gather in a small park outside KCW "to get the warmth of the sun". The parking of two-wheelers and four-wheelers on roads create problem for school-going children as their vans, autos get stuck due to wrong parking.
"At times, the traffic police is deputed during peak hours to regulate the traffic but they are not regular. We wait for 15-20 minutes after the college gets over and come out when boys disperse from the scene", said another student of KCW.