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Dear Khalsa Jee (sukhi),

Sikh religion does not insist that one should get married or not. It provides for spirituality with the frame work of family. if one does not want to get married it is not an un-sikh-like act.

 

From secular view point, the society is not yet evolved where the single girls can consider themselves as safe as boys. Laws of the land are not strong and their implementation is very slow. The victim girl is not sympathased by the society. The stigma remains on her making her life difficult. These have nothing to do with religion or Sikhi. From this considerations it is better for girls to get married; in some measure marriage provides social, economic and physical protection to the girl who has lesser muscle power and is vulnerable. I know girls who had remained unmarried and have not suffered any of the disabilities I have suggested above. These girls knew how to conduct and carry themselves in society; they did not depend on others; they choose the individuals with whom they talk or interact carefully and what to talk also they decided; when to be out and when to return back to their home was also doctored so as not to give any chance for comments. But in old age when the mobility is low one longs for company, these ladies and even men who have remaind unmarried are suffering from.

 

Not getting married is not a crime in Sikh Religion. Our Guru Sahib knew that 'Institution of Marriage' is not natural, it is man made for orderly conduct of society, which will change with time. Getting married or not the individual has to decide, it is not a matter with which Sikh Religion concern itself, if the couple want to get married the needed provision exist in the scripture.

 

With Love and Respect for all.

 

Amarpal