Also a little update. i saw her today at work and i asked her about it an she started crying. She told me her parents told her they wish she was never born and that they wish she would die. Her brother told her she was a cheap {censored} and should go kill herself as her sister told she was a {censored} an stupid an had no idea what she was doing. They accuse her of having sexual intercourse with me but we have not! the only think we have done is kiss. They took her drivers license, computer, phone and money/credit cards all away. They keep a constant watch on her, not letting her go anywhere unless someone goes with her. Its rediculous, she is 20. she isnt a little kid anymore. She is sikh, but i dont think she is a very stout sikh as the rest of her family might be. I told her to move in with me for awhile, that she needed to give them time to cool off, or else they will get worse. She has already told me that she doesnt want to stop dating me and that she loves me, but i can see she loves her family because the things that they say, even know she knows its not true, hurt her so deeply. i made it clear i would totaly understand if she chose her family over me. i love this girl but i dont want to see her miserable because of me. Thats the problem, because everyday we continue on this, she is going to be treated worse an worse by her family and thus making her miserable, not happy as is the goal of a good relationship, and i will not behappy because my presense is basicly causing her misery. if i end it with us, it will hurt, and she might even be more miserable for a time, but she will get over it an maybe her ignorant parents will find her someone she likes an she will be happy. i dont know what to do, im so worried. She told me straight out she wanted to die an has tried to cut her wrists 2 times. she hasnt eaten in days. i am so worried. Is this right or custom the way indian parents will treat a child over such a petty matter? the color of my skin, why should i have to be sikh if she isnt even praticing the faith? i am a christian, im not a practicing christian either, but i have m y beliefs and i would repsect any beliefs her or her parents have. Then i also feel bad because if she does move in an say we do end up getting married, but her family would hat her, would she be any happier with me than without me? help me out, place any views or advice you can muster up, i am up worried so i have plenty of time to read. thanks again
