Chamkaur Brar ji thanks for the post. We all read and get out of Gurbani the essence that we need. For me there are at least two ways to study and read Gurbani,
- Look for word or phrase hits like
- Your Example: "code of Gurbani for mating and partnership"
- I don't do that and don't approach Gurbani like that other than for occasional expediency and shallow approach
- So I will not help you with "mating and partnership code"
- Continuously accumulate one's understanding and use our brain and thinking to get guidance on most questions with the developed knowledge
- This is my preferred and generally the way I seek understanding.In such an approach you don't ask for rules from Gurbani or Shabads but use your accumulated understanding of all you have understood.
- In such an approach what you can also do is think when you read a Shabad and remember as though you are,
- Sitting in front of the Guru ji
- Guru ji is talking to you and describing meanings and the connectivity of Gurbani between the whole
- You listen but try to understand too on your own with humbleness and respect
- You are not endlessly asking Guru ji questions, as Gurbani is not written for super humans but people from all walks of life
- What you get in such an approach is a way of thinking, way of recognizing creation, way of recognizing our place in the creation and hence a knowledge to,
- Not waste efforts looking for ready made answers with this or that "tuq" or this and that shabad but the whole Gurbani as much as you can understand
Bottomline: When I was answering Harry Haller ji, my mind was on what and how Gurbani teaches us to see "Ek noor" (oneness in all); creator expecting us to use the gifts bestowed on us to live in harmony with what is around including with oneself, one's spouse/family and everything around; creator having provided the ability and wisdom to us to procreate, nurture and survive and live in happiness, as long as we do, with what we can.
Once one has such a mindset it allows one to unshackle from little battles (for example I referred to Kam, Krodh, Lobh, Moh and Hankar having no meaning in the context of a couple living together and be affected by any of these if true love and respect exists) that we create for ourselves and lose sight that we are allowed to enjoy, live, be happy and make others happy. Not every situation and scenario going to be scripted for us and if we do are looking for the same we will miss the forest from the tress and be caught in the weeds of time.
Sorry if it appears to be little side-tracked or nebulous, in all respect I do believe you are a learned person yourself, and perhaps I did not need to write all this. I have done so in case it helps someone else and me to learn through such discourse.
Sat Sri Akal.
