Secret Life of Girls: BAVLEEN KAUR SAINI
Secret Life of Girls: BAVLEEN KAUR SAINI - thestar.com
Leadership is important to Bavleen Kaur Saini. The 17-year-old is student council president at West Humber Collegiate, where she's in Grade 12, and the recent recipient of a YMCA Peace Medallion. An aspiring writer who reads her poetry at leadership camps and school assemblies, Saini is the second youngest in a family of five high-achieving daughters (her elder sisters are studying law, dentistry and law). "We have never let our parents feel the absence of a son," says Saini, whose parents work in factories, and who has a job in an after-school program at a community centre. She hopes to get a business degree.
Is there any disadvantage tobeing a girl?
Absolutely. Coming from a family of five sisters, people doubted our abilities and skills. The disadvantage is that people don't take you seriously. In my school community, I see girls who don't think they are worth much. You have to work for respect as a girl.
Are you a feminist? 110 per cent. Without feminism there's nothing to fight for, to lead the way. Otherwise, we just cross our arms and accept what's coming. I don't belong in the kitchen.
If you had a daughter what wouldyou wish for her?
Self-respect, self-love and happiness, having the strength to control what happens to you.
What are you passionate about?
My writing. I started in Grade 6. When I go on stage and read my poems, if I can change one person's life, I know my writing has meaning.
Why do you care about social justice?
Growing up, I heard stories about domestic violence and girls being taken advantage of by their boyfriends, and they didn't sit right. I write about that.
Whom do you look up to?
Definitely my mother, Surinder. Coming here from India, it was hard to adapt. I see her strength and her love.
What's your most valuable possession?
If there was a fire in my house, and all the people were safe, I'd go back for my poems. My life is in them.
Where does your confidence come from?
From other people's faith in me. When I write and people come to me and say thank you, I know I have the power to change the world.
What's your greatest fear?
I think my greatest fear is disappointing my parents. I have made it my responsibility to ensure that my parents never drop their heads in shame. Not that they would, because they are very proud of my sisters and me. My fear is not being my best. Not for myself, but for my mom and dad.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
One of my problems is when I'm working with a team, not knowing how to step down. A good leader has to be a good follower. I'm working on the following.
How is your girlhood different from your mother's?
At a very young age, my mother lost her father. She was expected to learn all household chores, and still finish school, though many others during her time weren't given the chance. My mother never had a job during her teenage years, whereas I have had numerous jobs.Every day, I am given opportunities to be successful whereas my mother didn't get all of those opportunities when she was my age.
