The gender gap since time began has caused upheaval and dilemma affecting the lives of all required to enter into long standing relationships with the opposite gender in the sacred sanctum of matrimony. equal opportunities have not created the social modern day equilibrium so desired by the people. The power struggle for dominance continues, and as uneven wheels attached to a motor car cannot drive it smoothly to any destination or progress. Power corrupts whether the state is behind women’s rights or male patriarchal dominance the figures are invariably manipulated to achieve the interests of a group that serves the prevailing rule.
The case of the Sanyaasan is a sad and tragic one. A pious and moral Lady horrendously treated by a philandering rogue wedded to her but indulgent of all others is tantamount to desecration of the sanctity of matrimony. If She has at some point erred and he is exacting revenge then it is better to make amends than become topics of gossip and speculation. If She retaliates by misbehaving as her spouse than this makes a mockery of their wedding vows. If she is a virtuous woman and he is patronising other les salubrious vessels of creature comforts than it falls upon the woman to depart from a situation exploiting her innate goodness and fidelity.
Some emotionally maladjusted individuals remain in bad marriages not for want of attempting to perfect the deficiencies in a relationship but out of habit and fear of being alone. Marriage is for life, and if the Sanyaasan has been singing voraciously the praises of her celestial Lord causing her earthly spouse to feel he has begotten a less than amorous measure of her supposed devotion to Spouse and ability to love this can lead him to expend himself in other directions. In this instance the Sanyaasan should tone down her praise singing platitudes of her Great Lord or give to her Spouse the material manifestation of this love. Otherwise Silence is golden than vacuous repetitive recitations of dedication not forthcoming to ones fellow spouse who then becomes more an accessory to the Sanyaasan than her Lord and Master.
Just a Thought in this intriguing topic on bridging the gender gap, sometimes seemingly the only purpose to the great feat of accomplishment that is marriage and matrimony...
***Semantics, verbiage, incessant rhetoric of the Sangat being Guru, and the Guru Sangat is workable only in tittle tattle repartee, we have divorce, marriage break up, children raised by struggling mothers in poverty, rising immorality causing the western Sangat to discuss nothing but the outcome of the immoral acts of the aforementioned. It would appear operas’ avid sangat and their and her nominated ‘’guru’’ president suit a select part of the community sangat more so than others!! -
It is about the individual, the I, for in the I dwells the Spirit of the Guru. A Sangat, a community cannot prosper whilst there are tortured souls in their midst. It is not difficult to bring peace to a community, until the Sangat is of one will and accord it remains a mob, a rabble, a kutteer sattol, the cause and culprit of the suffering and death of many Saints and Gurus in what satan/shaitaan seems to ensure is a futile ongoing tail chase in ascribing scriptural laws to misguided folk. ***
I feel Panjabi Sikhs, especially Jat Punjabi Sikhs will always be a unique and individual creed apart from all other world Sikhs...WaheGuru Ji... The I AM enlightened souls merged with the collective conscience. The My Myself I in All and All As One In Spirit In Mind, In Will.
Daljeet Kaur Rai Johal Bhuller
