Look, coming from the streets of UK, most of us men have always come across similar stories. However, we have normally been on the other end such as a good mate of ours getting his chick or girlfriend pregnant!!
As friends and mates we naturally respected their decision if they wanted to dump or proceed with the relationship.
The only lesson that I may have learnt was that '' I should avoid getting into such scenario''
Then again our mates never planned it, it was basically an oopsie that happens.
Being a little mature now and with reference to namrita's post, I realise the pain and difficulty faced by the woman.
The lad simply moves on and looks for better things, once they feel free from being tied down.Or they may decide to pursue fatherhood and stick with the chick, in which case you or the other lads hardly ever see him again !!
But it makes it difficult for the girl or woman to do it that easily. To simply move on with her life is not that easy, which is why Linzer can't make any sense of it.
I'm sorry that it has happened this way, but you need to get a little pro-active and try and move on.
If you need further help or guidance, then there are many professionals and resources available in Surrey BC from what I gather.
I don't live too far from Surrey and can help put you in contact with local counsellers if you require.
You have your kids to keep you going and give you strength. They must be a huge and valuable part of your life.
It may make your days a little easier, if you try live and see the world through their eyes. Remember for them, you are ALL they really have.
You may feel lost and let down by your lover, but they would be much more lost without you. You are their purpose for life !!
I hope you had a nice thanksgiving last week and I would look forward to halloween and christmas time with your kids.
