Dear Randip ji,
Not every religious per is nor will can be spiritual. There can be very few people who are religious and spiritual, very far and between. Most religious people are arrogant and egoistic. Every religious person believes that his/her religion is THE best religion in the world. Is this not arrogant and egoist? Most religious person say there is only one God, but then one I believe is the true God. If he only thinks what he is saying then he can know.
Truthful is very hard, but very easy to preach. Most religious person doesn’t even know what is the truth. Is there one Truth? There are as many truths as the population of the world. We all have our truth. Just look at it even in one religion there are conflict among the believers. They are killing fellow believers in the name of the truth. This thing was going on from the beginning of the time and it will not change. No matter how many Gurus and prophets will come to wake us up. It is not the Guru or book can person spiritual. It will be the person who will change by him/her self. Women are more spirituals then men.
Let’s look at the problem you are having with the children born out of wedlock. Are you not judging people according to your stander? Who started this marriage thing? Was it woman for her security or man want to own the wife? Animals don’t have marriage and they do not judge other animals for not getting married. It is only the humans who judge others. The one person born out of wedlock, he is the most respected and worshiped in the world. He did not have any kingdom. He never wore a crown yet kings and famous men of the world for the last 2000 years been bowing their head to him..
You want to be honest and curse the people who don’t marry and take on the responsibility. You even make your wife life miserable just because it does not fit to your standards. Is the piece of paper is good or his word? If person’s word is not good then piece of paper is not going to be good. Looks to me you want every one to do what you think is right. Is that not controlling? Most of the time we don’t even have a heart to heart chat with the person about it and try to understand his/her situation. But we jump to condemn him/her for some thing they don’t do to our standard.
The spirituality is to respect all life not to hate. If we want him/her to live up to our values, whose values we are living upto? Sikhism do not have the monopoly on the value.
Ask others about their view on Sikhism? And you will see what they really think. But we don’t care about what others think, we just want to tell others that they are doing wrong things. If one have real friend he/she will tell you. But if you just ask any one street he/she will be polite and will not tell you what you are wrong. Just look at you’re your wife, it is you who is having bit of tension with her but she don’t tell you to change your ways. If unmarried couple living next to my house and they have kids. How will I know that they are not married? I pried into their personal life. Is that right thing to do? How doe that affect my marriage? They were fine till I come to know that they are not married. Their kids are just like my kids and they get along fine. Now that I know that they are not married and now it is not ok. Have they changed because you married? They did not say any thing to you but you are the one who changed.
To become spiritual one have to look in side. Not to judge people. Make the change from with in. Don’t try to change the world.
The same goes toward gays lesbians disable different colors and further more toward other religions.
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