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Go ahead and get councilling sorry but you need to sort out your issues. I don't know which community you are talking about but living in the UK is still lawful. I guess to a point that is apart of what love is understanding somebody realising there troubled story and being able to accept them and love them for who they are an not what you wish them to be but that is like any relevant relationship between humans built up with confidence truth and trust. How many people are totally at one with there other half an peaceful. Your own history.