Gurtej Ji,
Sikhi is a personal journey so, will be different for everyone but there are a set of principles that we are guided by which are based within Sri Guru Granth Sahib - understanding these one to one with the Guru are imperative for our spiritual growth.
We cannot please society, or established groups who say they are the true Sikhs etc, because saying this they have already separated themselves. It's good to see you analyse what you see in your experiences with common sense, Sikhi is common sense.
You are awake, and seem to not want to do things just because they are done which is what our Guru's did and challenged practices/rituals/beliefs.
Part and parcel of Sikhi is our identity, I don't believe our identity hinders us from any work opportunities, it is ourselves, if we have the skills required but do not carry ourselves with confidence and are not prepared to educate those who misunderstand us, then it is our fault for the problems we may endure.
If someone does not want to employ you purely just because of your look, then would you really want to work for someone who thinks like that?
In regards to the private hair argument, if we go look back in history the further we go back the less body hair was an "issue". It's now the continuing journey of fitting in, glamorised people on tv and people having newer technology/resources available to deal with body hair to "fit" the accepted social norm.