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The problem here is that some people expect all the members of their community or group to follow a single norm. All the members of a community which numbers several crores cannot be expected to follow the norm. By very definition a norm is that which is average, it is not the whole.

The Sikh community now is spread out globally. The girls and boys go out into the world and interact with girls and boys of other communities. Is it reasonable to expect that all of them will have a mental resolve to never let their hearts go out to a person from other community?

Incidents of romance occurring between Sikh girls and non-sikh boys will continue to take place no matter what we do. What is happening in these cases is a natural phenomenon and we are interpreting it as an aberration.

What do we do about this in our personal lives? I think the best thing we can do is to bring up our children as responsible, sincere and perceptive beings. Controlling them too much would be wrong. Making them mature, sincere and responsible so that they can take their decisions and accept responsibility for their actions would be the right thing.