What do Sikh Men Look for in Women?
Being an Indian the point of discussion is based on the merits of marriage as we used to celebrate and experience that the arranged marriages are more successful than Love marriages though the decisions are being made within 10 minutes.
I twist the discussion to the arranged marriage and Love marriage. Though now it is a trend of Love marriage. But as per my experience Now the girls have been brought up in fairly liberal houses and now the parents don't dissuade them from studying or working.
Now the question:
- When the point of marriage comes the parents would not be too happy if their children get married outside their community. Though it would not raise furore in family but mixed mariages still are rarity in Punjab.
- Now the girls have freedom to voice her opinion in marriage if that is arranged marriage and can decline the proposal but they have to rock solid reason to turn down a prospective groom.
- As the boys give importance to the attractive look now the girls also consider this factor.
- As the boys accept proposals like wise the girls also consider whether the proposed boy has oratorical skill like Barack Obama. Secondly the consideration of his financial capability is also a great aspect in girls now a days as they like to choose the proposals like Laxmi Niwas Mittal or Mukesh Ambani.
- As the boys used to look in to the aspect the same way girls used to consider the social and financial status of the families and they consider that it should be at par. It is not like that as the horoscopes have been tallied by the family astrologer and the marriage is final.
How the girls' boidata is being made:
It includes her name, date of birth, qualifications, interests. The stress is not given on Skin tone and weight. But if she ahs garnished with outstanding achievements and has special attributes that is being mentioned.
After basic proposal the meeting is being fixed:
Now the prospective bride is under tight scrutiny. Prying eyes are checking her out form head to heels. The girl is being cautioned previously about her gait, how she smiles, how she laughs and overall her body language which should be homely. A few years back it was a tradition that the women were requested to walk and read. Now such a tradition is not in practice.
Like wise the groom is also under microscopic observations.
Questions during meeting:
Usually weird questions are being put, like Whether you get angry, Why have u coloured your hair, Do you party, Do you want to work after marriage, Will you be able to juggle work and family life. How many dishes you can cook, whay type of prathas you can make. Would you mind mopping the floor if the maid servant did not turn up. Will you wash the dish plates if the bai has not come. All such type of disgusting and stale questions which everybody used to put.
Customory Questions:
What do you do, What are your hobbies, Who do you like, what do you dislike. These questions are thrown at prospective boy and girl.
Blink and miss meeting:
This is all and you have to declare your verdict after the meeting of about 10 to 15 minutes. Yes this is the reality that you have to decide within 15 minutes about your life partner with him you have to spend the rest of your life. We are not talking about vegetables, shoes, clothes, groceries,
Considerable Point:
Within 10 minutes the marriage is arranged and divorce rate is too low:
Rajneesh Madhok,
