Brothers and sisters, can we please be civil to each other. Hard talk is fine, but bickering and namecalling solves nothing.
I do not feel patronised. Kindness and compassion should be encouraged, not criticised.
I have communicated with some others involved and have permission now to tell some things that I have been holding back. I feel this is important because I can in no way condone prejudice against Hindus or anyone else.
I am alive today. My cousin who was also there and also pregnant, is alive today. We have both built productive lives.
The only reason we are alive is because of one neighbour family. They are very conservative, orthodox, devout Hindu Brahmins. They were on a pilgrimage, but returned to Delhi as soon as they heard about the violence. They came because they were concerned about their Sikh neighbours. They were too late to save our men, but they got there as the mob was preparing to burn our house. They got them to stop, came into our house, waded through our dead bodies, checking each to see if any was alive. My cousin who had evidentally fainted came to and they helped her out. They found me still alive and carried me, unconscious and bleeding profusely, to their home, to their bed, somehow got me medical help, and saved my life. Without them both of us would have burnt with the house. Can you possibly realise what this cost them? But they did it without hesitation.
Prejudice against any group is abhorent. Whether Sikhs, Hindus, Muslims, whatever, my experience is that 10% are good, 10% are evil, and the rest are just trying to put one foot in front of the other and do the best they can.
Now I repeat my plea: Parents, please talk to your children about what happened. I know it is difficult. I know it is painful. I know it takes courage. I have been here, in public, on the Internet, psychologically bleeding all over my computer, hoping that you will have this dialog. If any of you think this is easy for me, please be disabused of that notion. I am having trouble typing because of shaking and I haven't been able to sleep. I am doing this only to try to open discussion.
Did you read this young man Skeptik, who thinks he doesn't know any '84 survivors? Someone enlighten him!
And I am not looking for sympathy, I am looking for openness, communication and respect across our generations.
THOSE WHO DO NOT KNOW HISTORY ARE CONDEMNED TO REPEAT IT.
Thank you all.
I do not feel patronised. Kindness and compassion should be encouraged, not criticised.
I have communicated with some others involved and have permission now to tell some things that I have been holding back. I feel this is important because I can in no way condone prejudice against Hindus or anyone else.
I am alive today. My cousin who was also there and also pregnant, is alive today. We have both built productive lives.
The only reason we are alive is because of one neighbour family. They are very conservative, orthodox, devout Hindu Brahmins. They were on a pilgrimage, but returned to Delhi as soon as they heard about the violence. They came because they were concerned about their Sikh neighbours. They were too late to save our men, but they got there as the mob was preparing to burn our house. They got them to stop, came into our house, waded through our dead bodies, checking each to see if any was alive. My cousin who had evidentally fainted came to and they helped her out. They found me still alive and carried me, unconscious and bleeding profusely, to their home, to their bed, somehow got me medical help, and saved my life. Without them both of us would have burnt with the house. Can you possibly realise what this cost them? But they did it without hesitation.
Prejudice against any group is abhorent. Whether Sikhs, Hindus, Muslims, whatever, my experience is that 10% are good, 10% are evil, and the rest are just trying to put one foot in front of the other and do the best they can.
Now I repeat my plea: Parents, please talk to your children about what happened. I know it is difficult. I know it is painful. I know it takes courage. I have been here, in public, on the Internet, psychologically bleeding all over my computer, hoping that you will have this dialog. If any of you think this is easy for me, please be disabused of that notion. I am having trouble typing because of shaking and I haven't been able to sleep. I am doing this only to try to open discussion.
Did you read this young man Skeptik, who thinks he doesn't know any '84 survivors? Someone enlighten him!
And I am not looking for sympathy, I am looking for openness, communication and respect across our generations.
THOSE WHO DO NOT KNOW HISTORY ARE CONDEMNED TO REPEAT IT.
Thank you all.