Oh, and what about henna on your hair? When the women here are at home, do you leave your dastar off? You never ever EVER go out without it?
What about your clothes? Do you wear jeans and stuff?
lol... i love it.
personally, except for my wedding ring, i don't wear jewelry except for maybe 1% of the time (i wore some bangles on my wedding day
). i wear minimal makeup - a tinted moisturizer with sunscreen to keep my skin healthy and smooth out the tone. but again, i did wear nice makeup on my wedding day.
i think this is totally up to the individual. as long as it's not a piercing- which is against rehet.
for me, i have a LOT of attachment to jewelry. i LOVE fancy shiny things. so i don't wear it as a way to rid myself of this attachment. it's only maya.
most punjabi women who are not amritdhari wear makeup and LOTS of jewelry. it's a cultural thing. 3HO sikhs seem to wear more jewelry than other amritdharis, possibly because the original 3HO sikhs came from hippie culture.
i sometimes wear a bandana tied around my hair when i'm just working around the house or even just running to the store. i wear my dastaar (or a simpler version, a "house turban") the rest of the time.
yes, i wear jeans.
i wear completely "normal" clothes... as long as it's not too tight, too revealing, low cut, etc. i have to hide my gatra (strap for kirpan) and the kirpan, so tight or off the shoulder or deep necked things are out of the question. most young sikhs or sikhs raised in the west also wear "normal" western clothes.
i also wear salwar suits to gurdwara, simple ones when i'm working around the house or fancy ones for parties. they're SOOO comfy and you can literally wear them anywhere.
henna is a tough one for me. rehet says not to "colour your beard" (as is the custom among muslim men). now, i know in my heart that this probably extends to colouring all hair.
dying hair damages it, so of course we don't want to damage our hair.
but henna isn't damaging, it's healthy. so is it ok? maybe. do i do it? no, because if i think about it this much, it's probably an attachment i can do without.
all of this stuff is really personal. look into your heart. why do you wear jewelry? why makeup? henna? if the answer is about attachment or attraction, then maybe it's not necessary. but it's up to you.
the one exception being piercings, which are forbidden by rehet. oddly enough, 99% of sikh women i know have their ears pierced, and many have their noses too. another example of culture overriding religion.
