Re: Sikh Girls Who Do Not Cut Their Head Hair, But Remove All Other Hair on Their Bod
Singh ji and Bhagat ji,
ਸਚਹੁ ਓਰੈ ਸਭੁ ਕੋ ਉਪਰਿ ਸਚੁ ਆਚਾਰੁ ॥੫॥
sachahu ourai sabh ko oupar sach aachaar ||5||
Truth is higher than everything; but higher still is truthful living.
Above is the highest of the high.
As for Sigmund Freud. No, I do not agree that Freud saw Ego as good. He saw it as neither bad nor good, but as a mental structure that evolves during infancy and into childhood. It is the seat of memory, language and rational thought. It is also responsible for the formation of the self-concept which requires as I said earlier compensatory strategies in order to feel "OK" with itself. These compensations according to Freud can become distorted and lead to mild or severe neurosis - self delusion. In that sense Freud and Nanak might be in agreement -- but this is a ridiculous comparison because Guru Nanak was deeply moved by the social and moral corruption around him and taught that deliverance mukhti comes from union with the creator. Freud on the other hand was seeking a scientific explanation for neurosis.
Now that the person of Sigmund Freud has come up in the the context of the Gurus Sahiban, here are two interesting comparisons. Both were deeply interested in the reason for human suffering. Both were deeply committed to the "moral" dimension of human development.
Sigmund Freud said this about suffering: “We are never so defenseless against suffering as when we love, never so forlornly unhappy as when we have lost our love object or its love.” For Freud, the best that we could hope for was to learn to tolerate our suffering with grace. That was the purpose of psychoanalysis -- to learn how to suffer without losing our dignity.
And what did Gurus Sahiban have to say about suffering? It comes from,
ਜਗਿ ਹਉਮੈ ਮੈਲੁ ਦੁਖੁ ਪਾਇਆ ਮਲੁ ਲਾਗੀ ਦੂਜੈ ਭਾਇ ॥
jag houmai mail dhukh paaeiaa mal laagee dhoojai bhaae ||
The world is polluted with the filth of egotism, suffering in pain. This filth sticks to them because of their love of duality.
And it is released by union with the Divine Essence of the Naam, the identity of the Sat
ਵਿਜੋਗਿ ਮਿਲਿ ਵਿਛੁੜਿਆ ਸੰਜੋਗੀ ਮੇਲੁ ॥੨॥
vijog mil vishhurriaa sanjogee mael ||2||
The separated ones meet, and by great good fortune, those suffering in separation are reunited once again. ||2||
It is curious that the loss of the objects of our love is the first cause of suffering for Freud. And Guru Nanak teaches us that when we cling in attachment to people -- what happens? We suffer. ਮਾਤ ਪਿਤਾ ਬਨਿਤਾ ਸੁਤ ਬੰਧਪ ਇਸਟ ਮੀਤ ਅਰੁ ਭਾਈ ॥ਪੂਰਬ ਜਨਮ ਕੇ ਮਿਲੇ ਸੰਜੋਗੀ ਅੰਤਹਿ ਕੋ ਨ ਸਹਾਈ ॥੧॥ maath pithaa banithaa suth bandhhap eisatt meeth ar bhaaee || poorab janam kae milae sanjogee anthehi ko n sehaaee ||1|| Mother, father, spouse, children, relatives, lovers, friends and siblings meet, having been associated in previous lives; but none of them will be your companion and support in the end.
Sigmund Freud had this to say about morality and the ego: through our collisions with other people, and in particular with our parents, our superego emerges from the ego. The superego becomes our internal parent, our conscience. It role is to keep our passions and our self-centered egos under control. The superego was to him both necessary and a positive development. Without a superego a person is a sociopath, without a sense of guilt, remorse or compassion.
And for Gurus Sahiban, guilt is an act of ignorance (deeds committed in the darkness that is cast on us in our ignorance of the True Guru).
ਜਿਹਿ ਪਰਲੋਕ ਜਾਇ ਅਪਕੀਰਤਿ ਸੋਈ ਅਬਿਦਿਆ ਸਾਧੀ ॥੨॥
jihi paralok jaae apakeerath soee abidhiaa saadhhee ||2||
But when you go to the world beyond, your guilt will be well known, by the acts of ignorance which you committed. ||2|| (Sant Paramanand)
And the cure is
ਸਤਿਗੁਰਿ ਸੇਵਿਐ ਦੂਜੀ ਦੁਰਮਤਿ ਜਾਈ ॥
sathigur saeviai dhoojee dhuramath jaaee ||
Serving the True Guru, duality and evil-mindedness are taken away.
ਅਉਗਣ ਕਾਟਿ ਪਾਪਾ ਮਤਿ ਖਾਈ ॥
aougan kaatt paapaa math khaaee ||
Guilty mistakes are erased, and the sinful intellect is cleansed.
So Freud and the Gurus would have made good conversation on the subjects of suffering and morality. But can you see that, although they are concerned with the same things, their understanding is completely different?
One last thought: in both psychoanalyis and Gurbani, it is always the mind that has to be cleansed.
ਅਉਗਣ ਕਾਟਿ ਪਾਪਾ ਮਤਿ ਖਾਈ ॥
aougan kaatt paapaa math khaaee ||
Guilty mistakes are erased, and the sinful intellect is cleansed
Singh ji and Bhagat ji,
ਸਚਹੁ ਓਰੈ ਸਭੁ ਕੋ ਉਪਰਿ ਸਚੁ ਆਚਾਰੁ ॥੫॥
sachahu ourai sabh ko oupar sach aachaar ||5||
Truth is higher than everything; but higher still is truthful living.
Above is the highest of the high.
As for Sigmund Freud. No, I do not agree that Freud saw Ego as good. He saw it as neither bad nor good, but as a mental structure that evolves during infancy and into childhood. It is the seat of memory, language and rational thought. It is also responsible for the formation of the self-concept which requires as I said earlier compensatory strategies in order to feel "OK" with itself. These compensations according to Freud can become distorted and lead to mild or severe neurosis - self delusion. In that sense Freud and Nanak might be in agreement -- but this is a ridiculous comparison because Guru Nanak was deeply moved by the social and moral corruption around him and taught that deliverance mukhti comes from union with the creator. Freud on the other hand was seeking a scientific explanation for neurosis.
Now that the person of Sigmund Freud has come up in the the context of the Gurus Sahiban, here are two interesting comparisons. Both were deeply interested in the reason for human suffering. Both were deeply committed to the "moral" dimension of human development.
Sigmund Freud said this about suffering: “We are never so defenseless against suffering as when we love, never so forlornly unhappy as when we have lost our love object or its love.” For Freud, the best that we could hope for was to learn to tolerate our suffering with grace. That was the purpose of psychoanalysis -- to learn how to suffer without losing our dignity.
And what did Gurus Sahiban have to say about suffering? It comes from,
ਜਗਿ ਹਉਮੈ ਮੈਲੁ ਦੁਖੁ ਪਾਇਆ ਮਲੁ ਲਾਗੀ ਦੂਜੈ ਭਾਇ ॥
jag houmai mail dhukh paaeiaa mal laagee dhoojai bhaae ||
The world is polluted with the filth of egotism, suffering in pain. This filth sticks to them because of their love of duality.
And it is released by union with the Divine Essence of the Naam, the identity of the Sat
ਵਿਜੋਗਿ ਮਿਲਿ ਵਿਛੁੜਿਆ ਸੰਜੋਗੀ ਮੇਲੁ ॥੨॥
vijog mil vishhurriaa sanjogee mael ||2||
The separated ones meet, and by great good fortune, those suffering in separation are reunited once again. ||2||
It is curious that the loss of the objects of our love is the first cause of suffering for Freud. And Guru Nanak teaches us that when we cling in attachment to people -- what happens? We suffer. ਮਾਤ ਪਿਤਾ ਬਨਿਤਾ ਸੁਤ ਬੰਧਪ ਇਸਟ ਮੀਤ ਅਰੁ ਭਾਈ ॥ਪੂਰਬ ਜਨਮ ਕੇ ਮਿਲੇ ਸੰਜੋਗੀ ਅੰਤਹਿ ਕੋ ਨ ਸਹਾਈ ॥੧॥ maath pithaa banithaa suth bandhhap eisatt meeth ar bhaaee || poorab janam kae milae sanjogee anthehi ko n sehaaee ||1|| Mother, father, spouse, children, relatives, lovers, friends and siblings meet, having been associated in previous lives; but none of them will be your companion and support in the end.
Sigmund Freud had this to say about morality and the ego: through our collisions with other people, and in particular with our parents, our superego emerges from the ego. The superego becomes our internal parent, our conscience. It role is to keep our passions and our self-centered egos under control. The superego was to him both necessary and a positive development. Without a superego a person is a sociopath, without a sense of guilt, remorse or compassion.
And for Gurus Sahiban, guilt is an act of ignorance (deeds committed in the darkness that is cast on us in our ignorance of the True Guru).
ਜਿਹਿ ਪਰਲੋਕ ਜਾਇ ਅਪਕੀਰਤਿ ਸੋਈ ਅਬਿਦਿਆ ਸਾਧੀ ॥੨॥
jihi paralok jaae apakeerath soee abidhiaa saadhhee ||2||
But when you go to the world beyond, your guilt will be well known, by the acts of ignorance which you committed. ||2|| (Sant Paramanand)
And the cure is
ਸਤਿਗੁਰਿ ਸੇਵਿਐ ਦੂਜੀ ਦੁਰਮਤਿ ਜਾਈ ॥
sathigur saeviai dhoojee dhuramath jaaee ||
Serving the True Guru, duality and evil-mindedness are taken away.
ਅਉਗਣ ਕਾਟਿ ਪਾਪਾ ਮਤਿ ਖਾਈ ॥
aougan kaatt paapaa math khaaee ||
Guilty mistakes are erased, and the sinful intellect is cleansed.
So Freud and the Gurus would have made good conversation on the subjects of suffering and morality. But can you see that, although they are concerned with the same things, their understanding is completely different?
One last thought: in both psychoanalyis and Gurbani, it is always the mind that has to be cleansed.
ਅਉਗਣ ਕਾਟਿ ਪਾਪਾ ਮਤਿ ਖਾਈ ॥
aougan kaatt paapaa math khaaee ||
Guilty mistakes are erased, and the sinful intellect is cleansed