I am 31 year old Muslim woman from the UK, I am a professional and have been independent for a long time. I have met people of my own background and faith but never felt it was right and I never wanted to settle with just anyone for the sake of getting married or giving into social pressure. I've met a Sikh man who isn't practicing but is very inclined to his faith as I am to mine. We both find ourselves in 'love'. We both believe in our respective faiths as they have been our light during our own tough times and do not wish to impose on the other, I myself am practicing and hence why find it even more confusing finding myself in this position. I never thought this would happen, we are not sixteen - young or dumb and are aware it is a challenge.
We both quickly realise that we want to be together and get married. Our outlook, views, values, experiences, wishes and spiritual views are very compatible and we make each other laugh and are able to have tough conversations without breaking down or being rude or disrespectful. I find he is such a compassionate, generous, kind and strong soul, the kind of man I have been praying for to complete me. We both don't believe in fairy tales but this feels very natural for us and the only thing holding us back is religion.
His family are quiet open and liberal, he loves Sikhi and I love Islam and he doesn't want me to change but I am scared of what will happen. I've been trying to find similar situations and to see if it works, to stop myself from going crazy and thinking I will go to hell If I do this. I do want a marriage and a nikah - a blessing and in my heart I believe Allah is everyone's God, our language or colour might be different but If you open us up, we all have the same organs and heart. How can our Creator therefore be different then? I am happy to go Gudwara too as I find Islam itself and Sikhism - if you put aside the politics, propaganda and ignorance of people - are the same in their message and at their core and preach the same morals and ideas. I do not want to convert and neither would he want me to. And deep down even though it would be easier if he was Muslim, I respect and love him for who he is and the person he is, is partly because of his deep love for Sikhi and i admire that.
I feel he is my better half and he believes I am his. We compliment each other and find peace in each other, peace like I have never known before from a human. I have experienced some extremley tough times in life but God always showed me a light at the end and allowed me to become resilient and overcome the challenges. I cannot believe he would get me to this point and allow me to meet this man for it to be something I would have to sacrifice. I believe God is love - in meeting him, I thought this is what God says marriage and love should be - it says our spouses are like 'garments' for us and sent down for us so we can find 'tranquility' in them... to me even though I am Muslim and he is Sikh, he is a believer as we both believe in One God, love, humanity, compassion, seveh - charity work, kindess and in working hard and doing our best.
I guess I am just afraid, even in 2023 of what people may say and esp becuase my family or community won't accept him if he doesn't convert - hell my family will still not accept him. I find myself in conflict within myself.
Any advice will be appreciated. Please do not share any hatred or right wing views, neither my Prophet pbuh or Guru Nanak Ji ever bashed another faith or person, in fact that openly sat amongst everyone and preached love and guided people to their own goodness and consciousness. Please be respectful.
Thanking you in advance.
A seeking soul - Ayah.
We both quickly realise that we want to be together and get married. Our outlook, views, values, experiences, wishes and spiritual views are very compatible and we make each other laugh and are able to have tough conversations without breaking down or being rude or disrespectful. I find he is such a compassionate, generous, kind and strong soul, the kind of man I have been praying for to complete me. We both don't believe in fairy tales but this feels very natural for us and the only thing holding us back is religion.
His family are quiet open and liberal, he loves Sikhi and I love Islam and he doesn't want me to change but I am scared of what will happen. I've been trying to find similar situations and to see if it works, to stop myself from going crazy and thinking I will go to hell If I do this. I do want a marriage and a nikah - a blessing and in my heart I believe Allah is everyone's God, our language or colour might be different but If you open us up, we all have the same organs and heart. How can our Creator therefore be different then? I am happy to go Gudwara too as I find Islam itself and Sikhism - if you put aside the politics, propaganda and ignorance of people - are the same in their message and at their core and preach the same morals and ideas. I do not want to convert and neither would he want me to. And deep down even though it would be easier if he was Muslim, I respect and love him for who he is and the person he is, is partly because of his deep love for Sikhi and i admire that.
I feel he is my better half and he believes I am his. We compliment each other and find peace in each other, peace like I have never known before from a human. I have experienced some extremley tough times in life but God always showed me a light at the end and allowed me to become resilient and overcome the challenges. I cannot believe he would get me to this point and allow me to meet this man for it to be something I would have to sacrifice. I believe God is love - in meeting him, I thought this is what God says marriage and love should be - it says our spouses are like 'garments' for us and sent down for us so we can find 'tranquility' in them... to me even though I am Muslim and he is Sikh, he is a believer as we both believe in One God, love, humanity, compassion, seveh - charity work, kindess and in working hard and doing our best.
I guess I am just afraid, even in 2023 of what people may say and esp becuase my family or community won't accept him if he doesn't convert - hell my family will still not accept him. I find myself in conflict within myself.
Any advice will be appreciated. Please do not share any hatred or right wing views, neither my Prophet pbuh or Guru Nanak Ji ever bashed another faith or person, in fact that openly sat amongst everyone and preached love and guided people to their own goodness and consciousness. Please be respectful.
Thanking you in advance.
A seeking soul - Ayah.
