<<Not at all Amar ji.The real world is very much different of this forum world.Just involve in any arrange marriage process and you will get the answer.The first question which a girl's parents ask is What is boy doing,How much he is earning? If you tell them that he is truck driver barely making 8,000 per month then a father of computer professional will throw you out of his house saying is this my daughter.But if you ask him that boy is computer professional making 50-60 k pm then parents and girl will go further in process.>>
you are giving avery theoretical example
why would a truck driver even get to meet the parents of a girl who expect a professional if its an arranged marriage?
i find this an unrealistic scenario.
<<Oh please I don't want to debate about Bill and melinda Now.Also there are millions of husbands who help their wives but nobody know their name>>
thank you. you yourself answered the point. If there are millions of men who help their wives, then are millions of them unsucessful and less earning?
<<My personal defination is also different but it is useless in this world.I have to accept what is the defination of successful for world.We all can make our definations.>>
kds ji
we all have choices to make, we can live by our own standards for ourselves and be ourselves, or we can forever be images of someone's impressions and thoughts.
what else is life without optimism?
ut i understand, its a choice you made, you would live and strive to be successful by what world expects and as Sinister shared, God Help you live up to it
<<Amar ji when you started writing on forum I thought you are a person with great practical knowledge of India.But to be honest I am disappointed that you too prefer in writing theortical term rather than practical.>>
yes KDS ji, i am an immature person who writes from his gut. knowing about the "boundaries" is not the end to all, eliminating and thinking beyound the obvoius is important, atleast in my opinion.
<<If I start beleiving world of forums then this world should be no less than heaven as everybody writes here so good.But In Reality majority do what is practical world is doing>>>
alas there are only 100 active members on the board
<<<Not at all.In country like India You have choose a creer in which jobs are available with big pay packets
<<<I am sorry but this is real world of India.My brother is currently doing masters in computers and he told me that 70% to 80% of his friends never wanted to be in computers.Someone wanted to be in Indian air force or some one give up his career in cricket.Reason Plenty of jobs In IT sector bigger pay packets>>>
this is a lie, the guy who says that he quit cricket...he never was passionate abt it enough, or he realized that he was not being fulfilled enough with the game and its challenges.
<<<Infact parents all over India force their chilbren to opt lucrative careers .The obedient children accept what their parents say while very few rebel.>>
why do you have to call it rebel?
why not empower the children to engage in dialogue?
KDS ji i just hope that you do try this out with your kids.
<<Also my cousin sister is also doing graduation in computer science and she is topper in her college.But she openly says that she hates computers and wanted to be in mass.>>>
KDS ji
have you asked her that why is she doing it?
beneath her decision, there would be a goal, objective she wants to fulfill.
probe her, beyond the money, beyond position.
You will get the answer.
She is making compromise for something she herself is not able to verbalize. Help her do that. i assure you, she will stop proclaiming that she hates computers else she would change her course.
<<<Sorry Sinister life is much different in developed and developing countries.You have adjust to the circumstances of life.>>>
KDS jii agree thatopportunities differ among countries, but this still does not justify that why do you join the rat race