Chazji
I think it is fairly accepted that Sikhism is a religion that does not recognise sin, your quote therefore validates those that would accept the Hindu deities as real, rather than the point of reference it actually is.
I would go one further, I could not care less what Creator thought of me, And I care passionately about living in line with how Creator suggests I live,
the above sounds like a contradiction
Your absolutely correct, it does, but that is not surprising as what I actually said was
I would go one further, I could not care less what Creator thought of me, however, I do care, hugely, about what I think of myself, and I care passionately about living in line with how Creator suggests I live, as per Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji
You see the written Bani, the word, following the words, acting out the words are a lesson in living in consonance with Creation, it is practical everyday truthful living, rather than the Yogi Bear method.
We all believe differently veerji, I do not believe Creator is a 'he', that implies 'he' has a personality, gets happy, gets sad, acts in an Abrahamic fashion, etc, the Creator for me is simply a truthful energy or force, I abide by the laws of Creation, I do not have a 'relationship'.
Anyone can do the 'right' thing to 'reap the rewards'
only the few do the right thing because its the 'right' thing to do and expect nor want any reward.
We must be careful we do not fall in the trap that all is good, and all is fate, it is not, our destiny lies to a huge extent in our own hands, if I smoke drugs and sleep with *****s, I will end up taking years of my life and getting a STD, if I do not, then the reward is I live longer, and do not get nasty boils, or worse. Creator gives us free will, out of that free will, we can either do the right thing, and enjoy the consequences or do the wrong thing and suffer the consequences, I find your saint like behaviour idealistic, but then I have said this before..
When we give a soul advice as in this matter, we have to understand like some of the posters above have mentioned that its very difficult to deal with parents and trying to resolve this smoothly. But as things stand the marriage is still going ahead, so bless her WaheguruHelpMe needs to be certain that this won't happen again. so maybe some tips or guidance on how she can determine that this wasn't a one off before throwing it all out in the open. Maybe if they are exchanging text messages she could save them as evidence to show the family?
When a dog bites me, I do not give it a second chance to bite me, I find that completely in line with Sikhi, your interpretation ,again, seems Abrahamic and along the lines of turn the other cheek, Creator gave us a brain, it is only fair we use it, rather than blindly follow rhetoric without thinking, or using discretion, but, and I am going to be cruel here, what else can you expect when one puts more importance on repeating Bani rather than understanding it and practising it with logic and understanding, Apologies for any offence, but your swimming on the surface brother, maybe you need to dive down a bit.
The future husband hasnt hit WahegurHelpMe, And whether the future husband has led her on, she made the decision to send the picture. But god bless her, she now knows that was a mistake and her actions since then have been amazing. Very brave girl to pull herself out of this mess.
She also stood up to him and stood firm to the requests of more picturs.
Strangely enough I have absolutely no problem with the pictures, if he wants them, and she wants to send them, fine, consenting adults and all that, no problems, and I do not see it as a mistake, if they are both happy, the mistake here, in my view is being pressured into doing something that you do not want to do, doing it, and then being put under more pressure to continue, this is a classic sign of bullying, and in my view, just the start of the sort of behaviour that some males display throughout married life, once bitten, twice shy, time to get out
Sometimes people learn very quickly after a mistake and become better people. I'm just hoping that he's one of them and i'm hoping now that he has been told of his issue with desire that he can confront it and beat it
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I am willing to take responsibility for my advice, worst scenario? they don't get married, he gets exposed, but the consequences of your advice are far far worse, would you be willing to take responsibility for the consequences if he does not learn very quickly?
I apologise for the tone of this post, however, in my view, people who are willing to forgive and forget do more damage than they realise, we are Sikhs, we should stand up for ourselves and illuminate those that behave this way with a big spotlight, not give them a chance to weasel out and then do it all again,
