Soul mate;
The word Soul Mate is a misnomer as no two souls are alike. The term Soul Mates means many things, which are consciences that you have experienced with in past, parallel or future lifetimes. They can also be aspects of your conscience experiencing at this time in another body. We are all having multidimensional beings - your conscience having experiences, in many realities, at the same time. As we all evolve from the same source of consciousness creation - we could say that we are all souls’ mates in a manner of speaking. It could be said that two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity may be soul mates. You feel closer to certain persons, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them. There is a special bond between such individuals like unconditional love, respect for each other, bringing out the best in each other with complete compatibility.
Soul mate thinking/proposition is living in a world of fantasy. It is dreamt but not found in the present world except in the final spiritual union with Akal Purkh as expressed by Guru Amardas in Raag Suhi; they are not said to be husband and wife, who merely sit together. They alone are called husband and wife, who have one light in two bodies.
In actual reality IMHO soul mate is a bunch of beans. It only works till the man says “I Do”. In a second after that bride wants to change her soul mate in to soul mate, so he has to like what she likes period-term used as henpecked.
Spiritually marriage usually means death and absorption of the soul in to the Supreme Conscience, which is the real soul mate. In this world it is only give and take to make the marriage happy, which is not very commonly found. In case bride is unhappy then she thinks as described by Sheikh Farid Ji; when she is a virgin, she is full of desire; but when she is married, and then her troubles begin again. Farid, she has this one regret, that she cannot be a virgin again.
It could be said that soul mate is a poetical description of a happy couple, only to be obtained with spiritual growth and neither through internet, nor match making and even not by love affair.
Guru Amardas commented on the question of his wife (Mansa Devi) to find a boy for their daughter Bibi Bhani like Ramdas (then a Sevadar and became 4rth Guru later), to which he responded that there are no two persons alike and he is the only one like him in the world.
A soul mate is one whose lock and keys fit one another. Each feels safe to open each other’s locks with their own keys with complete trust. They honestly are in total and unconditional love with out any pretensions. Each shares deepest longings, sense of direction and makes life come to life. In reality it is difficult to come by and very rare as is evident from the following hymn of Guru Amardas in Raag Maru; Seek and find those who are imbued with Truth; they are so rare in this world.Meeting with them, one's face becomes radiant and bright, chanting the Name of the Akal Purkh.
Virinder