Tejwant ji,
The reason I questioned you was not because I was offended, just that I consider other things more in need of attention than having ADD.
Let's be brutally honest here. It is you who mentioned having ADD. I kept quiet and never said anything about it. However more than once you "diagnosed" me with having ADD in a sarcastic, angry and wishful manner. In other words you mocked your own ailment and wished someone else should have it too.
I think I would have snapped at you and be on the warpath, had it not been that I just read a couple of pages from a book on adult ADD I started reading a few days ago (which is one reason I made use of the concept instead of my usual reference to particular mental states). In that it was stated that one of the possible symptoms of ADD is sarcasm, which I was quite surprised to read, judging from my own experience. But I do see why you would think that I have been sarcastic; after all you have been working with many different people with ADD.
And I think that if you got past this initial reaction, you’d not come to the kind of conclusion you did above. I mean why would someone who has admitted to having ADD wish it on someone else?
The reason I mentioned ADD the first time in our conversations was after you accused me of proselytizing. It was to highlight the fact that I expend much energy into writing and why I'd not do this if proselytizing was my objective, especially since I also see at the same time, little sign of others being influenced.
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Quote: Well, was I not talking in terms of what goes on in general here? I wonder if you too have ADD, because this happens to me quite often, namely that I skip over words and misunderstand the message.
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I ignored it the first time when you lanced your wishful thinking of ADD towards me, but sadly you kept on doing the same, making mockery of your ailment and insulting all those who have it and wished those who did not should.
And frankly, I am thinking, “Damn you”!
This second time was after I perceived you as misrepresenting what I said. And it was stated as an excuse “for you”, which if turn out to be true, makes you the object of sympathy and not of insult. I thought about my own experiences and how you'd similarly be experiencing difficulty. And right now, the word paranoia comes to mind, but even here, amidst the anger, moments of sympathy arise in between.
Just last night, my older son came to me after being scolded by his mother, and said that he was fed up of being scolded, and immediately started to criticize her for this habit. I told him that she can't help herself as we all are with regard to our own peculiar tendencies. I then told him that when we criticize other people, at that time we are overlooking our own state of mind and forgetting our own faults.
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I do not have the habit of tooting my own horn what I do in my spare time is no one's business and my duties are mine only. It is not a favour to anyone. It is my responsibilty to pitch in to the best of my abilities
And you read my response to you regarding this as motivated by ill-will hence this response from you? I was actually expecting a friendly response.
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Quote:the reason I questioned you was not because I was offended, just that I consider other things more in need of attention than having ADD.
So, I ask you if it was not that important as you mentioned above, then why did you repeatedly make mockery of it and wished others had the same which is a very wishful thought process.
I explained above, but I can't be sure now whether you will take it in a positive way. It is almost like I'm trying to calm down a guard dog who mistrusts me while defending its master.
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I hope this is not part of your Buddha's teachings, who according to you has the only truth and reality, no one else does.
Other than simply stating that the Truth can't be anyone's monopoly, can you give some reason for thinking this way? And can you answer one simple question, why if Guru Nanak and the Buddha both understood the Truth, did one teach about God and the other did not?
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Confused ji, all of us have some kind/s of ailments.
Yes, I know.
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If we wish the same onto others, then it seems we are living in the "curse of karma" according to your religion,
The reason I stated that “I consider other things more in need of attention than having ADD” is this:
Worldly pursuit such as academic success and career aside, except for the fact that anger arises when being distracted, I consider my ADD relatively harmless. As I understand it, ADD is primarily pure ignorance rooted in restlessness and attachment to sense objects. And of course it reflects also a lack of wisdom. None of this however, is karma result, but are states which are of the nature of cause.
Pure restlessness although unwholesome, and can condition other unwholesome states, can't itself give rise to unpleasant results. The sense attachments associated with ADD, although these are unwholesome and are accumulative and sometimes a cause for anger is not however, of the strength which will condition bad results.
This is the reason why I consider ADD a small problem. The real problems being the 10 unwholesome courses of action which I listed earlier, the worst of which is Wrong View.
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where as in Sikhi prayer we say," Sarbat da Bhlah"-. May all humankind be well in all aspects.
There are places in the Buddha's teachings where reference is made to thinking about all beings in all directions with kindness / friendliness. But we are also reminded about being truthful to the reality. This means that we have to consider if we truly have that much kindness? Indeed do we even know to differentiate kindness from attachment? Because if in fact we don't have the kind of kindness what ends up being the case is that we just grow in attachment and tendency to fool ourselves, and this can't be good.
:grinningsingh: lol 0
