Ummm...no, I think the idea is much more along the lines of a practical Dr. Phil "how's that workin' for ya?" type of approach.
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And variations of that story happened over and over again... so much so that these complaints finally reached the CEO of the corporation that owns the resort. And he did some research. And he calculated that, by pulling people out of the lift line or otherwise detaining people who did not have a pass or who did not have the right kind of pass, we ~maybe~ saved ourselves $30,000 a year.
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See... there is a HUGE difference between knowing what you have a "right" to do and knowing in your heart the "right thing" to do.
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And he is insisting that I deduct 15 minutes of vacation time from my timesheet due to the fact that I did not CALL him to NOTIFY him that I would be late.
On a day when common sense combined with this admittedly rare and high-level managerial skill known as "looking out the window to check the weather" would have TOLD him I was going to be late.
And I have tried, desperately almost, to explain to him that when he micromanages me in this way -- seeking out faults and shortcomings without ever praising me or offering any balance to counteract his perpetual focus on negativity. ... ego-based focus on having us kow-tow to his authority.
What is the saying -- there are none so blind as those who *will not see*? I think that applies here.
The important thing about rules and laws is not the fact that the rule or the law exists because clearly there was a time when that rule or law did not exist...and that changed...and that means that it can change again. The important thing it is to focus on what that law is intended to accomplish -- what interest that law is designed to address.
Lose sight of that and the law simply becomes meaningless dogma -- something that, based on my understanding of gurbani, we are urged to avoid doing.
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To have an inquiring and discerning heart and mind is a gift. God must want us to use those gifts or God would have created robots instead of humans.
Siri Kamala ji wonderful post and I have similar work experiences too.
Now in terms of the this thread I bring the following to the attention of SPNers,
- The question is one first and foremost one of Sikh Rehat Maryad (SRM) which itself was dervied consistent with Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji by learned men each one of those perhaps was equivalent to the total brain power in terms of Sikhism on this board
- At least that is how humbled I personally feel knowing names of some of the people involved
- It is very disingenous to take one part of SRM and conveniently take other parts to prove a point (nothing personal as this is a philosophical discussion for helping each other) and I mark with R for indiscretion that are not Kurehat while Kurehats are marked with K
- Comments like
- Teetoal (R + K)
- Government of India lumps in (Maintains untrimmed kesh K, Does not smoke or consume tobbacco K, Does not consume alcohol R.)
- There are other posts where anti-drink (nothing wrong with the view as it follows SRM) posters do the same by Gurbani quotes by mixing R and K
- The above actions are not correct in providing Guidance
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- 5. koeI nSw(BMg,APIm,Srwb,posq,kukIn Awid) vrqx vwlw[
- -User of any intoxicants (Marijuana, Opium, Liquor, Poppy Husks, Cocaine, etc.). R
- This clause is a violation of a rehat and SRM deals with it as follows,
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Method of Imposing Penalty
a) ijs iksy is`K pwsoN rihq dI koeI Bu`l ho jwvy qW auh nyVy dI gur-sMgq pws hwzr hovy Aqy sMgq dy snmu`K KVHo ky AwpxI Bu`l mMny[
- The Sikh who has erred in a rehat indiscretion, should attend the nearest sikh congregation and while standing admit to the indiscretion.
A) gur-sMgq 'coN sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI dI hzUrI ivc pMj ipAwry cuxy jwx, jo pyS hoey s`jx dI Bu`l nUM ivcwr ky gur-sMgq pws qnKwh (dMf) qjvIz krn[
- The sikh congregation, in the presence of Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji, selects five Panjh Piyare (Five Beloved) who having reviewed the indiscretion propose a penalty to the Sikh Congregation.
e) sMgq nUM bKSx vyly hT nhIN krnw cwhIdw[ nw hI qnKwh luAwaux vwly nUM dMf Brn ivc AVI krnI cwhIdI hY[ qnKwh iksy iksm dI syvw, Kws krky jo h`QW nwl kIqI jw sky, lwauxI cwhIey[
- In giving forgiveness the Sikh congregation should not be stubborn. The person seeking penalty should not resist the penalty. The penalty should be service oriented with focus on the abilty to do so as labour of hands.
s) AMq soD dI Ardws hovy[
- A prayer of having been reformed shall be carried out at the end.
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Globally key points,
- For Rehat (R) Violations like the following,
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1. mIxy, msMd, DIrm`lIey, rwmrweIey, Awidk pMQ ivroDIAW nwl jW nVI mwr, kuVI mwr, isrguMm nwl vrqx vwlw qnKwhIAw ho jWdw hY[
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Meenay, Masand (non-believers in Rehat Maryada); Dhirmaliye; Ram Rayiaye (non-believers in Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji as last and final Guru), Touts of anti-Panth or of the non-believers in succession of Gurus, female infanticide, the person dealing with such is subject to penalty.
2. by-AMimRqIey jW piqq dw jUTw Kwx vwlw[
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Eater of food eaten by non-Amritdhari or Kurehatiah.
3. dwhVw rMgx vwlw[
-Beard colourer.4. pu`qr jW DI dw swk mu`l lY ky jW dy ky krn vwlw[
-Doing marriage matches of sons or daughters through by taking or giving a set price.5. koeI nSw(BMg,APIm,Srwb,posq,kukIn Awid) vrqx vwlw[
-User of any intoxicants (Marijuana, Opium, Liquor, Poppy Husks, Cocaine, etc.).
6. gurmiq qoN ivru`D koeI sMskwr krn krwaux vwlw[
- Conductor of non-Rehat based religious functions.
7. rihq ivc koeI Bu`l krn vwlw[
-Other mistakes in following Rehat.
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So best for all of us is to keep clarity and convey clarity. Nothing comes out of mush.
Bottomline:
- The person in-charge of indiscretion is solely responsible to bring it to Sikh congregations attention as needed
- Do not mix the following:
- Tobacco use and Drinking are totally different matters in terms of recognition and severity and actions to reform from in SRM
- Sikh Rehat Maryada was derived based on Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji and rules of wisdom for Personal and Panthic living
- Re-quoting of Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji in justifying harsher or softer views for others is against Sikh Rehat Maryada
- Don't let Government of India or any other Government define who is Sikh! It is well and completely defined in Sikh Rehat Maryada
- If you want to suggest improvements or changes submit to the process defined in Sikh Rehat Maryada
I am not condoning drinking or stopping people from drinking just stating what I can read in reference publications of SGPC and other posts with Gurbani quotes and translations.
Hoping above is of help in the dialog.
Sat Sri Akal.
PS: Any errors in English translations of sections of the Punjabi SRM are mine and I stand corrected. The original Punjabi SRM text is taken from,
http://sgpc.net/sikhism/punjabi/sikh-dharma-manual.asp