Can Sikh Girl Marry A Hindu Boy?

[TigerStyleZ]

You right if same thing happened other way also.A hindu girl marring a sikh boy. Which is nearly non existent.

dakku "singh", what are you trying to say? Everytime I see you posting, you try to confirm that no women (esspecially hindu) on the world would marry a sikh guy. What is wrong with you? What are you trying to prove? There are plenty of "hindu women " who marry sikhs, like there are plenty vice versa... Are you trying to say, that Sikhs can never have a girl? Stop making me laugh

 

[dakkuSingh]

Ok

 

[itsmaneet]

The answer is given himself by our father Guru Gobind Singh Ji Maharaj in his 52 orders to Sikhs - http://www.info-sikh.com/Page52Hukams.html

Go through point no. 38.

Gurfateh !

 

[itsmaneet]

You right if same thing happened other way also.A hindu girl marring a sikh boy. Which is nearly non existent.

I agree with dakkau singh to some extent. Atleast in India i have hardly seen any hindu girl marrying a Sikh boy. But there are plenty where Sikh girls married hindus & muslims going against their parents .... Can't say much about it but one reason may be that such Sikh girls break trust of their parents, freedom given to them by their parents. Also, the same thing applies to a boy, they too marry other religion girls disobeying their parents. Infact look at Punjab for examples .. what the hell boys are upto to impress girls .... cutting hairs, beards, piercing ears, eye brows etc ... etc ..... it's all hell going on.

 

[Harry Haller]

what the hell boys are upto to impress girls .... cutting hairs, beards, piercing ears, eye brows etc ... etc ..... it's all hell going on.

I agree, with the wealth of role models in the Sikh community, the strong leadership, and the efforts to show understanding and willingness to educate, rather than dictate, how could all this happen, damn those boys!

 

[HardFacts]

It appears to me also that these days large number of girls from Sikh families are marrying outside religion. They do not seem to have any inclination towards contributing to Sikhism. They do not care at all whether this will have any adverse affect on future of the religion.

In my opinion such tendencies do not seem to exist, at such a scale, in women of other religions such as Hinduism and Islam.

I believe that such apathy from women in sikh families is the single biggest reason why men are also giving up their identity so that they might find matches outside Sikhism

 

[findingmyway]

Love or Pressure ji, your post has been moved here as it is more appropriate place for it to be:
http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/love-and-marriage/39211-relationship-advice.html

 

[findingmyway]

It appears to me also that these days large number of girls from Sikh families are marrying outside religion. They do not seem to have any inclination towards contributing to Sikhism. They do not care at all whether this will have any adverse affect on future of the religion.

In my opinion such tendencies do not seem to exist, at such a scale, in women of other religions such as Hinduism and Islam.

I believe that such apathy from women in sikh families is the single biggest reason why men are also giving up their identity so that they might find matches outside Sikhism

Of course it always the woman's fault!!! That is definitely how all Sikh men should be-always blaming the woman yellingsardarni

 

[Ambarsaria]

HardFacts ji couple of comments.

In my opinion such tendencies do not seem to exist, at such a scale, in women of other religions such as Hinduism and Islam.

Perhaps more positively it defines strength that Sikhi provides to all, both men and women to be who they want and as they want. It does not shackle or persecute.

I believe that such apathy from women in sikh families is the single biggest reason why men are also giving up their identity so that they might find matches outside Sikhism

I believe findingmyway ji did a succinct comment on this. You never win in a blame game and it is just an excuse for not facing realities. Marriages are personal decisions and passing the baton versus facing up does not help at an individual level.

Sat Sri Akal.

 

[Scarlet Pimpernel]

There should be something and that is why you marry ,it's chemistry, her eyes are the catalyst,if she's right she will bond your atoms,I'm certain of something it's not her religion.

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[Ambarsaria]

Scarlet Pimpernel ji my experience is like the following,

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Of course the possible better half also expresses,

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Regards.

 

[Scarlet Pimpernel]

Veer Ji

It seems we are both hopeless romantics,but why would an 'Energy /Creator/ Force' provide us this fine capacity for personal romance.It seems we have fallen in love with flowers and not the Grower.

 

[Ambarsaria]

Veer one comment,

Veer Ji It seems we are both hopeless romantics,but why would an 'Energy /Creator/ Force' provide us this fine capacity for personal romance.It seems we have fallen in love with flowers and not the Grower.

Veer, Flowers and growers are two sides of the same. No point picking sides to upset the other and not connect to either. They do talk to each other and see, know and hear, etc., all that goes on :interestedmunda:

Sat Sri Akal.

PS: Much time is wasted by many to show the differences between the flower and the grower versus spending time to see the sameness. As in,

• I want to find him/her
• I want to merge
• I want to submerge in one Jyot

Point is to note the relationship is dual with self as in the flower and the grower. Neither has purpose by self but they are always together mundahug

 

[kds1980]

HardFacts ji couple of comments.Perhaps more positively it defines strength that Sikhi provides to all, both men and women to be who they want and as they want. It does not shackle or persecute.

How does marrying outside and indirectly converting to other religion define strength for women?

 

[Ambarsaria]

How does marrying outside and indirectly converting to other religion define strength for women?

kds1980 ji I use the following thinking which is irrelevant to what religion one believes in or adheres to or is being linked to,

• As an adult you become responsible for your actions and destiny including marriage decisions
  • Strength
• You are forced, coerced or dictated to comply, with promises or rewards for so doing
  • Weakness

Sat Sri Akal.

 

[HardFacts]

Of course it always the woman's fault!!! That is definitely how all Sikh men should be-always blaming the woman yellingsardarni

Why? Are women incapable of faulting ?

My opinions are based on what I have seen around. Unbelivable number of such marriages are happening around. If THOSE women felt some responsibility towards religion also we would not have been discussing this topic at many places.

If you think that its Sikh men that are at fault, please elaborate.

 

[HardFacts]

HardFacts ji couple of comments.Perhaps more positively it defines strength that Sikhi provides to all, both men and women to be who they want and as they want. It does not shackle or persecute.

I do not believe that women who marry outside are driven by any strength from Sikhism. Rather Sikhism is completely irrelevant in their decisions.

I believe findingmyway ji did a succinct comment on this. You never win in a blame game and it is just an excuse for not facing realities.

My views were meant to be an observation rather than an excuse for anything. I believe this is an important step in facing up to the reality, its consequences and working on suitable remedies, if any.

Marriages are personal decisions and passing the baton versus facing up does not help at an individual level.

Marriages are personal and the big question is why contribution to religion is not part of that personal decision of many women as this would help Sikhism sustain itself and not ultimately be confined to history books.

 

[findingmyway]

Why? Are women incapable of faulting ?

My opinions are based on what I have seen around. Unbelivable number of such marriages are happening around. If THOSE women felt some responsibility towards religion also we would not have been discussing this topic at many places.

If you think that its Sikh men that are at fault, please elaborate.

Are men incapable of faulting?

I'll give you my own experience. Most "Sikh" men I've met have refused to consider me as a possible partner because I keep more kesh than just the kesh on my head. Several guys have told me this outright and therefore I am not considered attractive enough! Rather than give up my Sikhi, I chose to stay alone. If a man gives up his Sikhi to attract and unworthy "model" type girl, is that the woman's fault or the man's? If a guy puts a relationship before his faith or wants the wrong girl rather than his faith, that to me shows huge weakness of character. Each of us should take responsibility for our own actions and decisions. Blaming people never achieves anything. I'm sure the Guru's didn't complain and play the blame game. Instead they were exemplary in their own behaviour and encouraged others around them to do the same. The Guru's were never so narrow minded as to blanket accuse a whole group of people.

 

[Scarlet Pimpernel]

Marriages are personal and the big question is why contribution to religion is not part of that personal decision

Veer Ji If it's personal then no questions are needed, just as if she personally likes to eat rice, she will continue eating rice and encourage her kids to eat rice and her husband may even start eating rice!

 

[Kanwaljit.Singh]

So a Sikh girl can marry a Hindu boy, but then he has to become a Sikh boy? Otherwise marriage becomes null and void?