It all comes down to the point:
Do I need Amrit before marriage?
Do I need to wear turban before marriage?
Do I need to learn Japuji Sahib before marriage?
Do I need to learn the name of 10 Gurus before marriage?
If it is Sikh way of marriage, what are the requirements? To be a Sikh?
If yes, what is a Sikh? Belief in 10 Gurus and Guru Granth Sahib and nothing else? That is all? Where does Amrit Sanchar come in then?
Kanwaljit Singh ji
You have managed to throw a rope around the core question that continually plagues the panth and contributes to much dissension.
What is a Sikh?
Sikh Rehat Maryada does give some guidance:
Chapter I - Sikh Defined
Article I – Definition of Sikh
Any human being who faithfully believes in:
• One Immortal Being
• Ten Gurus, from Guru Nanak Dev to Guru Gobind Singh
• The Guru Granth Sahib
• The utterances and teachings of the ten Gurus
• The baptism bequeathed by the tenth Guru, and who does not owe allegiance to any other religion, is a Sikh.
It does not clear things up. Last point: a Sikh believes in the baptism (amrit) bequeathed by the tenth Guru... but does not go on to say it is required. The theory is, however, that one who believes in amrit will certainly seek it.
There are 25 million Sikhs. Millions of those are born Sikh, who have not taken amrit. Are they Sikh? Must they take amrit in order to be married within the Sikh faith? it would come as a big surprise to most of them to find out a) that they are not Sikhs; and b) that they are not married as Sikhs.
Where do we go from here?